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Dear John, I Love Jane:
Women Write about Leaving Men for Women

Edited by Candace Walsh and Laura M. André

There are plenty of coming-out stories on the market, important but familiar tales of women who knew from childhood that they were ‘different’ and the ways in which they forged their own paths in a heterosexual world. The women in this refreshing anthology come from a different angle entirely. After decades of heterosexuality–frequently perfectly fulfilling–they meet a woman who turns their world upside down. Initially shocked–am I gay? Or is it just her?–they experience a shift in identity that is as welcome as it is unexpected. Some of their husbands and boyfriends are supportive; others are not. Some of the women are still with the woman who prompted the change; some are with another, or in an open marriage with men, or still exploring their identities. All speak of occupying a strange place on the spectrum of sexuality: ‘I won’t insult my past self by saying I was in denial or confused. I am a textbook example of the fluidity of sexuality,”‘ writes one contributor. These stories are often funny, sometimes heartbreaking, and always brave as they reveal an often-overlooked arena of sexuality.
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If you’re a “straight” woman coming to terms with the fact that you’re gay, then this is the book for you. Compiled by Candace Walsh and Laura André (a couple who share their own Dear John story in the introduction), Dear John, I Love Jane is a collection of 27 authentic stories told by women who’ve “jumped the fence” in the middle of their well-established (oftentimes married), heterosexual lives…This is a unique, much-needed collection of stories that describe the fear and excitement that come with coming out. In a way, Dear John is like a handbook, providing answers, reassurance, and good company for those with questions.
—Whitney Dwire, Bust Magazine

The 27 essays in this brave new collection do more than push the envelope—they rip it open. The Isle of Lesbos, we learn, is visited not only by Sappho and Ellen. Mormons, Baptists, wives, mothers, those who have questioned their identity in passing and the heretofore adamantly heterosexual offer personal narratives that spin around the core idea of sexual fluidity. Get ready for honest, intimate, funny, painful and surprising new answers to old questions.
—Valley Haggard, Belle/Style Weekly

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Ask Me about My Divorce: Women Open Up about Moving On

Edited by Candace Walsh

In Ask Me about My Divorce, editor Candace Walsh and 28 other women look at the silver lining their divorces have brought them. These are not sad tales of woe. These are stories of inspiration and salvation written by women who didn’t shrink from the big D. Some chose to leave; some were left, but all rejoice in what came after the divorce. This groundbreaking book offers readers an honest, funny, heartfelt, and stigma-free way to reconsider divorce…and correspondingly, their own past, present, and future.

It was as if I’d been swimming the English Channel for months, miserable, cold and lonely, and suddenly there to pull me out was a crowd of beautiful, laughing women in dripping bathing suits, telling stories.
—Marion Winik, Above Us Only Sky and The Glen Rock Book of the Dead

Funny, heart-scorching, and indelibly wise, this absolutely stellar collection of essays explores the way divorce can actually jumpstart lives in the happiest of ways. Eye-opening, insightful, and, surprisingly, a whole lot of fun to read.
—Caroline Leavitt, Pictures of You and Is This Tomorrow

Divorce has few road maps, but this clear-eyed collection is as close to a field guide to life before, during, and after as women are likely to get—and it’s a damn good one. What to pack? The kids, that clarinet, maybe nothing at all. What season? They all suck; spring comes. What to look out for? Unbidden grief, unexpected terrors, unheralded pleasures (like way better sex), and irrevocable, joyful self-knowledge.
—Ashton Applewhite, Cutting Loose: Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well

Divorce is a fire. Whether you come out a tiny black cinder or nicely browned and full of flavor is a matter of attitude—something these essays, in all their ebullient variety, prove. Read them, weep, rejoice, laugh. Vive la femme divorcée!
—Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Perfect Vehicle and The Place You Love Is Gone